Many high-functioning women struggle to stop controlling everything. This article explores where that pattern comes from and how real healing begins.

Have you ever found yourself reacting in ways that feel completely out of proportion? Saying yes when you mean no, shutting down emotionally, lashing out or feeling deep shame for things that happened long ago? It might be confusing and you might think something is wrong with you. One way to explore that experience is through the language of parts. I use parts-informed reflection to explore conflicting feelings, protective patterns and unmet needs. It offers a therapeutic fra

This topic may bring up a lot. Read at your own pace, pause when you need and consider what support would help you feel grounded. Early caregiving can influence how we experience care and closeness. It is one part of a much larger story that includes other relationships and later experiences. Your relationship with your mother may have mattered deeply without determining everything about you or your future. And yet, we don’t talk enough about the grief that can come with moth

Have you ever found yourself craving your therapist’s approval, feeling extra sensitive to their words or even feeling a strange pull towards them? You’re not alone. Strong feelings towards a therapist can have several meanings. Transference is one way of understanding how expectations and feelings from other relationships may enter therapy. Not every attachment or attraction is maternal transference. But is it healthy? Let’s talk about it. What Is Maternal Transference? Mate

This article will teach you the signs of the mother wounds and explain how you can heal it.

Loss is an inevitable part of life that can lead to significant grief and pain. The death of a loved one, a breakup, job loss or any unwanted change to one’s circumstances can feel devastating. Loss comes in many forms that can lead to grief, including: The death of a loved one - losing a family member, friend or pet can bring profound sorrow. Romantic breakups and divorces - the end of a committed relationship can deeply shake someone's world. Job loss - being laid off, down

The first two years of life are crucial for the development of attachment, which is an emotional connection between a baby and their primary carer, usually a parent or other family member. As it offers a sense of security and comfort and affects how the child interacts with others and views themselves, this bond is essential for the child's emotional, social and psychological development. The attachment relationship serves as the model for all subsequent relationships because

Emotions are complex psychological and physiological responses to certain stimuli or events. They play an important role in our lives by helping us to understand and navigate our environment and relationships. Let me guide you through some of the main functions of emotions: Communication: Emotions help us to communicate our internal states to others through nonverbal cues such as facial expressions, body language and tone of voice. This can empower us to build and maintain re

Feeling constantly on edge can be tiring. You might notice tension, worry or difficulty settling. Those experiences can have different causes; they do not establish that your nervous system is damaged or that a particular trauma has occurred. What might help when you feel on edge? There is room to explore what supports you without trying to force yourself into a particular state. It is crucial that you realise that trauma, stress and healing are multifaceted processes. There’

Trauma and our nervous system Your nervous system helps coordinate responses to stress and danger, including changes in alertness, breathing and heart rate. These responses involve several interacting systems. Describing them only as “fight or flight” and “rest and digest” can be a useful introduction, but it is not a complete explanation of an individual experience. Distress can be felt physically as well as emotionally. Some people notice tension, a racing heart or a strong