Do you ever wonder why you react the way you do, even when you know better?

You are not broken - you learned patterns to survive.
Now you get to learn patterns that let you thrive.

​

The Secure Self-Scorecard is a gentle psychological tool designed to help you understand the emotional strategies your nervous system learned in childhood — and how they show up in your adult life, relationships, boundaries, self-worth and identity.
 

This is where awareness becomes your turning point.

When you know what shaped you, you can learn how to reshape yourself.

 

What this assessment gives you

• Your level of inner security (3-level scale)
• Your core emotional wound
• The nervous system state you default into under stress
• Patterns in relationships, self-worth, and boundaries
• Personalised guidance on your next healing steps
• Tools and suggestions to begin shifting into your Secure Self

This is not a personality test — it is a mirror.
A moment of truth.
A compassionate check-in with your emotional self.

Why this matters

If you grew up needing to perform, please, be perfect, stay strong, or stay small…
your nervous system learned survival, not safety.

Healing means learning to feel safe being yourself.

You don’t heal by judging your patterns —
you heal by understanding why they exist.

This test helps you see the story beneath the behaviour.

The three levels

Level 1 — Survival Self
“Hyper-independent, hyper-responsible, or constantly anxious.”
You often operate from protection, not trust.
Old wounds still shape your choices and relationships.

Level 2 — Emerging Secure Self
“Self-aware, healing, learning to trust yourself.”
You are building emotional safety, self-compassion, and new patterns.

Level 3 — Secure Self
“Rooted, regulated, self-trusting.”
You are grounded, connected, and anchored in your sense of self.

No level is better.
Each one is a chapter, not a label.

How to take the test

Answer from your truth — not who you think you should be.
There are no right or wrong responses.

The test takes around 3–5 minutes.
At the end, you’ll receive a personalised result and guidance.

Breathe.
Be honest.
This is for you.

Ready to meet yourself more deeply?

Begin your Secure Self-Scorecard below 👇
Let’s gently uncover what your nervous system has been trying to protect —
and who you are beneath the protection.

(Embedded test goes here)

After your results

You’ll receive tailored guidance based on your level:

• If you're in your Survival Self, you'll receive grounding tools and inner child support
• If you're an Emerging Secure Self, you'll get next-step strategies for emotional expansion
• If you're Secure, you’ll receive insight practices for future-self embodiment

Whichever level you land on — this is the beginning, not the destination.

You are already doing the work by being here.

A gentle reminder

This resource is educational and reflective.
It is not a diagnosis and does not replace therapy.

If you discover something tender inside you — that’s okay.
Bring curiosity, not judgement.
Growth happens when we meet ourselves kindly.

Save your results, keep them close, and return often —
your inner world shifts as you heal.

Ready?

On the outside, you may look composed and successful.
Inside, your nervous system might still be on alert — carrying unhealed emotions, hidden beliefs, and old protective patterns.

This scorecard helps you understand your emotional patterns and where you are on your journey from survival to secure.